I’ve been exhausted lately. The kids had a little summer virus and I’m pretty sure I’ve got a touch of it. So I’ve been pretty miserable all day and my patience level has been shamefully low.
Dan came home from work and said, “Why don’t you go out for awhile?”
To which I was like:
So anyway, I was just sitting here at this overlook that I absolutely love. It’s a beautiful scenic spot away from my home with benches on a hill where people can pull over and look out over the countryside. Just gorgeous, really. I love places like this. I feel God’s presence in these outdoor cathedrals.
I was listening to a Matthew Kelly cd on raising families. He was talking about the importance of really knowing our spouses and children. Really knowing where they’re at and what’s going on with them. How easy it is to lose track and how important it is to be in tune with each other.
Down the road, there was a young teenage couple walking. She was on her cell phone. He was just ambling along, kicking gravel. She had a half shirt on and loose, patterned pants. He had on an oversized black t shirt. They were headed toward the bench right in front of me.
“Oh boy,” I thought as I watched them, feeling a little annoyed. “Here we go. They’ll be making out right in front of my awesome view any second.”
They sat down and she shut off her phone. He put his arm comfortably around her. Not too tight, not too loose. Just casually, but safely…like an old couple. There was no makeout session.
Then I heard Matthew Kelly speak these words:
“Every relationship thrives with carefree timelessness.”
He went on, speaking about how important it is to spend time with those we love simply being, doing nothing. Being together without any agenda or particular plan, but really paying attention to each other.
“We don’t gift our relationships with carefree timelessness.”
He talked about how busy we are, how we don’t give each other this important gift.
“Why do young people fall in love so easily? Carefree timelessness.
Teenagers talk on the phone for how long? Forever. What do they talk about? Nothing.
Oh, but we don’t listen to the wisdom of young people. We don’t listen to the wisdom of children.
We try to cram our relationships into ten minutes time.”
Then I realized what a gift that young teenage couple was giving me. What a beautiful gift of wisdom they were teaching me. The gift of timelessness.
I felt tears well up in my eyes.
From my husband’s gift of booting me out for some alone time to this precious young example of carefree timelessness spent comfortably on a bench, I know God led me here tonight to get that reminder and that lesson.
I hope I use it well.